the quiet weight of scarcity: building abundance

While shifting out of a scarcity mindset and stepping into abundance are deeply connected, they aren’t quite the same. One is about noticing and gently releasing the grip of fear, doubt, and lack. The other is about actively choosing to build a life filled with meaning, richness, and joy.

It’s the difference between surviving and expanding.

And depending on your story, your upbringing, your environment - this work will feel different.
For some, finding abundance might come naturally. For others, especially those raised around fear or instability, it may take more effort, more intention, and more time.

But here’s the truth: abundance isn’t something you're either born with or not. It’s something you can grow. Slowly. Brick by brick.

Because life isn’t always beautiful. Some days you’ll cry on the bathroom floor, feel the ache of loneliness, or be swallowed by envy. That doesn’t mean you’ve failed. That doesn’t mean you’re not “abundant.”

It means you're human.

An abundant mindset isn’t about avoiding pain - it’s about holding it alongside the knowing that life still holds wonder, beauty, and possibility. It’s trusting that even when you’re in the thick of it, even when your heart is heavy, the beauty will return. It always has. And it will again.

We’re often taught that mindset is fixed - that if scarcity runs deep in your wiring, there’s nothing you can do. But that’s not true. While you may not be able to instantly change your circumstances - your job, your finances, your relationships - you can begin to change the story you tell yourself.

And no, it’s not easy. That’s the piece we don’t hear enough. We’re often told: just think positively, just shift into abundance. But when that doesn’t work instantly, it can feel like we’re failing all over again.

You will fall back into scarcity. You’ll be more aware of it, which makes it harder at first. But with consistency, patience, and a deep returning to yourself, change will come.

So how do you begin to not just remove scarcity, but actively create abundance in your life?

1.see the challenge differently

Abundance doesn’t mean pretending challenges aren’t hard. It means slowly learning to meet them with curiosity. To ask: what might this be teaching me?
You’ve already done this, even if you didn’t realise it. That painful moment that stretched you? It shaped you. And even if it left you weary, you got back up. That is abundance. That is strength.

2. let yourself feel - but don’t spiral

Sometimes you won’t feel abundant. And that’s okay. You might need to cry, wallow, be angry. But the key is not letting those emotions turn into stories that say, this always happens to me, or nothing good ever lasts.
There’s a fine line between feeling deeply and falling into scarcity. Abundance is holding your emotions with compassion, and still choosing to return to the bigger picture.

3.find something you are good at

Scarcity thrives in comparison. It tells you others are better, more capable, more worthy. But everyone has something. Listening. Baking. Writing. Organising. Start with one thing, however small, and give it space. Let yourself feel proud.

4.structure your day with space and intention

Scarcity often sounds like: there’s not enough time. But structuring your day gently - allowing time for rest, nourishment, movement - can soften that belief. It’s not about cramming in more, but creating a rhythm that supports you.
If something takes longer than planned, it doesn’t mean you’re failing - it means you’re learning how to structure more realistically next time.

5. create a space to come back to yourself

Abundance isn’t about avoiding hard feelings - it’s about making space for all of it. Create a safe place (a literal space or a routine) where you can reconnect with yourself. Not to push through or fix, but to listen. To feel.
This helps you remember that you are living a full life, even when it feels messy. That the ache, the doubt, the overwhelm - all of it can exist within a life that is still good, still unfolding beautifully.

Abundance isn’t a perfect mindset. It’s a practice.
One you return to, again and again.

Even when it’s hard.
Even when you forget.
Especially then.